Cocoa Butter

If you are going to wear it. Wear it naturally with etiquette and beauty.

Whatever color you wear. Be flawless and confident in the skin you represent. Remember we were not created to be beautifully perfect; we were created for a flawless purpose. So when our young girls struggle to feel uncomfortable in their own skin; there should be a reminder that she can identify with; in her own natural skin.

If make-up never existed; would nakedness deter us from presenting who we are in the natural skin tone? And if we are not prepared to answer back; who would teach us beauty is what we carry in ourselves. In knowing all products are optional for the record.  

One day I decided to look in the mirror; I removed all the makeup and preserved the natural with softer highlights and cocoa butter with baby oil. I did not aim for perfection in  beauty. I aimed to preserve the beauty I discovered in myself. And what I share with the queens in my life is this; today you are maturing at a speed of lightening, due to the exposure in this world. And as little girls your bodies are expanding into the skin you will grow-up in. And overtime this body will endure pressure; remember to respect it. 

The eyes will grow weary once they are tired; allow your lids to rest, and always remember to love on your pallet, rest your head on a soft pillow case. And allow your little minds to cast away. For Time will come unexpectedly. And one day u will look into the mirror and either adjust what you see. Are accept; your natural skin is beauty.

YOU

Before any male understands himself. There is alway's a female working inwards to learn more about; herself. And in the learning process both will be the example of either’s boyish or girlish behavior. 

And once a female identifies her worth. In being a woman that is not appreciated by a type of male.

The opportunity is waiting for an established man. To enter into her presence. And recognize her value. And in return. She appreciating his manhood. 

From a short or long distance. 

Now, guess what? Race is not a factor. 

When a man finds a woman. And they both respect one another in value.

                                                                          "Angel L."

                                       

Danger

Confessions don't come easy. To many fights turn into battles. And communications are easy at the beginning of something new. Until someone is broken if not blind sided by Love. To understanding love is expressed in a multitude of facets. Its people that play mind games in it. Depending on who is demonstrating the real act. Or speaking out its love language.

 

Love is priceless. And repercussions occur when this love is mishandled and betrayed; it becomes a very Dangerous Game. 

Why? Once we start up; internal battles. Of wars. For love. You just don't know. How deep. It goes. In what people are fighting for.

We're all guilty as human beings. In playing mind games. But no one every really wins. If we choose to stay knowing there is a chance. so many tears will eventually be shed. Before we permanently make up our minds. To walk away. Before it's to late. Because of what is in these; wandering hearts. The danger; hides. For the one who returns; one last time.

Some people just know; what work is required. To maintain their status. In securing forever. And then there is some people that know; why. It's better to Have. Overall the chance; to Have Not. At all.

How can this 4 letter word; carry such a tumultuous amount of pressure & weight. That  controls the heart; fluttering with anxiety. Because we're all going to be faced. in battles to fight. In what the mind; struggles to decide. Whether to stay for Love. Are to decide. Why, it's time. To finally walk away; this final time.

If it we're about; these emotional expectations. To gain. Each other. In being & knowing in Love. Then why are so many lonely hearts seeking; one another. Walking amongst one another; throughout this world? 

As some people look into each others eyes; fantasies run through the mind. Until the  mysteries unfold. Of what we figured out.  Who was really in the ring. Fighting each other to get out. Are fighting for each other to; stay.

My son once said "mom? I want you to find someone". I said I already have by having you. And I'll know when he is chosen. To protect my heart. And ready to give of his; a genuine kind of love. That is sincere. According to the will of GOD.

Then on the early morning of Jan. 15, 2020. The love I was faithful to. My young prince. Through his birthright on earth. Of what was written In The Book of Life. Time came For me to be prepared. On this day. In Obedience to answer back. To the King in Heaven. Of a  call. To return back; our Prince. To our first love; God. 

                                   Cheers to Love! 

The greatest gift; of All. Of every portion. Of what we selflessly pour; of love. back into. One another. 

Harmony

I saw a vision this morning; and the word of the day read; Harmony to share.

What is hard to accept; regarding if somethings are nothing about humanity changes. Life is still going to happen.

If we own up to accountability. We can move towards establishing our own if not for All; stability in the compartmentalized comfort zones. In which many are complaining on pause.

We are not the brightest of beautiful, brilliant, bold if not an average mind in the universe. And even the smartest, most Influential, Independent, Interesting, and Intelligent people in the world; make bad choices, create positive solutions and posess  weaknesses & strengths.

Like my acclimations? Our children will need them.

We are just ordinary people; at the end of everday of confusion, bills, material things and problems. Until we confront theses "Action items", in communications. Are with the  acceptance in our own human behaviors. Struggles are going to exist no matter the sex, race or origin; when we as human beings continue to pacify on  toxic behaviors and denial in taking accountability of the choices we make. 

If not better prepare ourselves in a Life that is just going to happen; without permission. Look at the hand Covid-19 dealed in the time of uncertain leadership, crises and family disconnects. We must reassemble our focus; on a more mindful desire to live.

Harmony for my "grandchildren, and their dad who resides in his Master's hands", and peace and prosperity in the healing for All. In a land that awaits the future of these children and our tomorrow. 

Masculinity

Boys need strong men role models in their lives to teach them manly things and instill in them of how to take care of themselves; and girls need woman to teach them the value in strength, love and how surving in a world of diverse classes of people; teaches you the importance of valuing  yourself. And yes, there is a possibility where families values, morals and beliefs are unstructured. So this boy becomes acclimated in this environment of figuring out his own man. He will display some resentment & rebellion because of the absence of a biological father if not misguided role model. He will challenge the replacement of a role male model. Simply because he needs the truth of who he belonged or still belongs to, and what he needs to learn to become this man. The reality all boys belong to a bloodline in which they are a fathers blood heir. The reasoning to why some boys strive in  the quality of their life; is because they sense they have 1. According to what the guardians are establishing of knowledge and of stability. Even if a mixture of family or friends are involved in the support or temporary care of performing as role models in the presence of a boy. This applies to girls, as well. The the role models must play a significant  & stronger mature role. For this girl or boy to process his or her own change into men/woman in their own skin.

At 20 years of age, a single mother I gave birth to my only son. Unfortunately his life was taken at 28years of age. Most people say "its sad, the young die to soon".  I respond Gods plans are not ours. And God did allow our son to leave love in tiny footprints. And the trusting hearts of the women that are left to mold his children. I taught my boy how to identity with love; and acknowledgment of understanding his own body and feelings. I taught Dominique  to identify his strengths by surrounding him in circles of men in empowerment. I taught him to use his physical body to perform endurance and to use his mind to think for himself but mold it; as your most powerful weapon. And do not allow anyone to gain inappropriate access, or use manipulation to possession it. 

A bandaid on a wound only covers the surface; underneath that wound may or not be healing. Look around young men struggle. And woman seek strong men to help raise these boys. Even If she struggles to do it herself this woman has to be more careful; of who she alows in her house.

Our boys are the kings we birth; for every princess a prince is being molded for her. In a world of wars, emperors,generals, kernals, commanders and chiefs. What we should be in fear of is whether theese boys are growing up without; the teachings of strong men that have been educated with life experience.

A woman can groom children  to love. Her girl she needs to emulate her and the son needs to be molded to protect them both. And at the end of the day this boy should understand what is the makeup of him growing into a man. So that he is not misguided in his own male skin. And dominated by any type of woman because of the love his mother taught him; by challenging his masculinity; based on how his daddy was around or not. And the next man who steps In if not step-Up.

"9"

It's intriguing Humanity is educated in reciting Old History. In a New Generation of Historic debates over accountabilities. And one day ALL children of color will read for their own understandings; to discover of what we labored in of this generation. 

Can we conclude "The North Star" was a direction told to the slaves to find freedom; follow the North Star, and was there really freedom at the end of the direction in which they were appointed; to freedom? The right answer lives in the memoirs of our current human concerns; of what has been written and provided to us in historic literature, if not movie lines of actors & actresses directed in of  “this is a better environment, than where we had to flee for our lives. In order to live as free black men, woman and children”.

We speak about police brutality; and the world screams in aggravation after "I can't breathe". We tap on black on black crime and the world tip toes on egg shells. We are well aware of the systemic profiling in racism; as our black people drive & walk home in their own neighborhoods. Until one day they are stopped and ask "what is your name, where are you going, and let me see your ID". And no every stop made is a reasonable justifiable cause. Although we do appreciate the public services in All neighborhoods; however a dress does not cover-up inequalities through intimidation is the real world world. As ALL children face a struggle in hardships with education & virtual schooling.

which returns us in ALL human beings. back to the pages of our past history. We continue in a struggle to accept the denial if not another generation of distress people; mentally & physcologically.

 “The Little Rock Nine was a group of nine African American students enrolled in Little Rock Central High School in 1957. Their enrollment was followed by the Little Rock Crisis, in which the students were initially prevented from entering the racially segregated school by Orval Faubus, the Governor of Arkansas”.

We acknowledge the educators who sacrifice; from 4 text books per class of 29 children. Has it really been over 70 years since outlawed. And how is it possible in this generation that still faces; Equity Gaps in Housing segregation, Income In Equity, Mental & Health services are just a few in inequalities of our next generation of these children that will face it. If we don't deal with the domino affect of Racism/Systematic Prejudices.  

When I address who will lead our children; it applies to what we ourselves lack, choose not to educate & share, if not deny the Truth's of a conversation to speak on Equity in Education. That will determine their history moving forward of what we have accomplished in this generation. 

In Memory & Honor of all our colored children to equal education. 

The Ellen Show

If any custodial parents or grandparents including myself of a deceased father who was my only son; is guilty or judged for petty things. When it comes to investing time to instill encouragement & confidence in a child's; hair or physical appearance & knowledge. I will make a custodial judgment in the best interest and protection of this child or children. To be recorded in history for no child should feel insecure of themselves. Thanks to Ellen who exposed in a real world of what an extraordinary,  beautiful 3yr old; was taught to learn in her skin of herself confidence. 

Children are a masterpiece God created in a plan. And parents/grandparents if not the family who all support these children are the extension of who this child becomes; in their own skin and recognition of themselves, according to the exposure in these environments. 

Development in mental stages, physical appearance and social skills is crucial in a child's youngest years; from the womb until these children mature into adulthood. Self confidence is a condition even adults struggle with in themselves; at latter years.  

Accolades to the Social Workers who are knee deep in these trenches across the world. To save a few is many to these children; of a few who know they feel loved, but even low moral & lack in confidence  as we have experienced in humanity is a challenge; now apply this to a small child. For we all have experienced life's adversity. But what about in the smallest of children & youth; who are overlooked if not acclimated to the environment where change could of occurred in moral; first.