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Today we will discuss baby momma a title some that does not define all females. Whether young or old we possess freewill in making choices and decisions.

And figuring out human promises is made to be broken. Expectations are overrated. Boys need space and time to mature into men. Females need time to figure out love is an action word. Therefore, men need mental space for themselves; to learn how to communicate, what factor in of their commitment and how to demonstrate an action of showing accountability of what they will make an invested amount of time in to stay or walk away. Children are a blessing. But for every female and male that consecrates it is not a confirmation God’s plan is not wrapped around whether we act in our own intentions.

Therefore every person is not promised to. Why, all people in any relationship are tested in the fire.   And some of us stumble with a glass of water. Marriage is commitment with or without kids. And In relationships people are working in the relationship it to figure out themselves, first. Why, well let’s apply logic to fantasy; how can I find happiness in someone else. If I have yet to define in myself; children add to our lives. Its ups to us to figure out our life.   

And just because our mothers and fathers married or not; we will never know what parents discuss behind closed doors. Marriage requires maturity, trust and work. Because no one can promise I can fix you, if I am broken.

And just because we cohabitate in relationships; signs of dysfunctional behavior exists; such as arguing and harboring the kids from the other parent who is committed vs. the blood parent who responds after “text & voicemails”, then we must ask ourselves a question how can we place expectation on anyone else. So now the perception in aligned let’s dive in to a mental space where we can clean up our own mental and emotional baggage.  

Skeletons exist for a reason. God did not create perfect people; God created a people with a purpose.

Biological Parents: A paternal child is shared between the biological blood parents.

A Baby grows in stages: this baby is innocent, and vulnerable throughout the stages of his or her life. One day this baby will recognize; their hands, tiny feet, eyes, and ears. Throughout their course of life from age day 1 to 99, life has taught us we are born once a child and return back to the developments changes over time. Why, because we all can relate that it takes a Village to raise 1 child, but not all villages teach with the same values, morals and beliefs. Where father time is the cycle we cannot deny of the truth. About our behavior in how we choose to raise our kids. No pun intended we can attest there are times as grown female and men we revert back to our baby ways.  

Woman & Men/Boys & Girls: It’s a joy to be a mother & father if not parents together. It’s a peace of mind to have a plan prior to being a parent. So how anyone say “I regret having kids”, now each person has their own reasoning to why, some people intensely seek to be loved, in another person whose intention; is only to enjoy the pleasure.   

Females: if you are fertile. There is a chance during; penetration in a sexual act. Without the tse of; a contraceptive. Then you're unprotected. And whether are not. You both have a plan. Responsibility will be not delete it self. Unless the test; is neg. But if the test is  positive. You will know in less than a 48 hr. period. If not 9 months of the actual delivery.

Males: If you are not prepared to sacrifice for another life. And what I mean is even if she is not a wife type. Be more honest with yourself to avoid the next step. But if you are man who is compassionate and honest with himself; safeguard your choices before expressing your values, morals and belief. 

Why? because again every female is not promised to be your wife. Are you there husband. But There is a female are male; awaiting for a fair fight. To win your heart.  

Family unity: If a female or male inherits a family of the opposite in this relationship, marriage or  from the act of being in the heat of the moment. Thank God because not every family is invested in a fantasy family. And What I mean is this. People have their own personal intentions behind; birthing children. So, Listen close. While paying attention. For you both to recognize your own personal choices. And your own personal issues. Because some people think twice about who they invite into their lives. And when you bare innocence as children. They either suffer are acclimate themselves into a stable are dysfunctional; lifestyle.

I heard a story the other day; a young man said I alway's argue. And post bail. Out of jail. Behind my baby momma. I try to do right by my kids. But this female won’t let me be. I started another relationship and this woman has kids as, well. But I see the potential in both of them. As a young man. I don’t get how a female struggles with a man who will. And wait around for a man who takes his time. To see his own genes.

I heard families say. The young lady took the children away. And it was not because we did not try to do right by the children. It was the baggage our family refused to not carry; of another person not in the bloodline of this family. Now we love our people but when children are involved what is the intense need to leverage the children for. Where there is those families; who will step up. 

Just as there is those families that will choose; to diss engage. With the going back & forget. With whomever is the invited guest. That use the children. To.argue over who carrying old baggage.

I heard a child say; I’m not happy not because I don’t love my parents, being of maternal mother & paternal father. The stressor is because one or other cannot get their life in order; without arguing. And I’m not too small to understand how I feel. I’m too small to understand why they keep making the kids; carry the load of their adult baggage. 

If our parents did not teach us everything at one time. Regarding relationships. Young & old. Are either if we can still say I was not taught, or did not know. Then it’s time for our villages to figure out; what the old baggage is about.

The title Baby Momma was created. But female's you don’t have to wear the name to validate 'I got a child's, with a human being. Just process When a man or boy values who you are; it will not matter where you are (mentally or physically).  Vice versa to the titles of Baby Daddy. We're all humans trying to figure out. A connection with each other. In the life.

I would like to pay respect to all the woman and young girls, boys and men for enriching our lives with the life of a child or children. But in 2020 we are on stuck on repeat of the history in our families. one day a child will grow up; and wonder how and why did I end up; carrying so much of my parent’s old baggage.

But If this does not apply to your situation; then step outside and look around some parents and villages remain lost. If we only step out of our own way. And look into the eyes of a child. Who is trying to carry mentally. all of his or her peoples mental baggage.